Secrets

[abeja_reina_1989]

I've been thinking about this lately, and any advice would be greatly appreciated:

What do you do when your boyfriend's sister tells you something very serious (life threatening) and she says she's too scared to tell her brother? I'm completely lost! I mean, turns out; she has cervical cancer and she told me. My gut tells me to let her tell him herself because she said she would tonight, but at the same time, I don't want him to find out that I knew and didn't tel him... you know?

[Earl]

I'd blurt it out, I can't keep a secret.

The way I'd see it, the sister has told you because she's too scared to tell her brother herself so she actually wants you to spill the beans to save her from doing it.

That's the way I see it, but I'm probably just a big gob.

[Ck]

Oh, what a position to be in. I'd probs do this > See if she does tell him tonight, if it looks like she's going to bottle it tell her that you can't keep it to yourself cos it's doing your head in and she'll have to tell him or you'll end up blurting it out. At least you'll all know where you stand then.

She might have been sort of practicing on you, sounding it out before she tells her brother or just letting you have a wee bit of time to get your head round it so you can deal better with your boyfriends shock and upset.

[Ben]

I'd personally say nothing. If the boyfriend later finds out and then has a go at you for protecting his sick sister's wishes, he's gonna need to take a look at himself and grow the fuck up.

[Tiyana]

If it's really that difficult a situation, perhaps ask her if she'd like for you to be there when she tells him, as support? If he had a problem with you knowing, you could be honest and say that you only just found out and felt his sister should tell him herself.