Relationship Advice Please Anyone

**tattooed_angel** · 29-05-2006, 08:01

I am SORTA in a relationship, ha! if you call it that.

Me and a friend whom I've known for bout 5 years on the internet, started coming close last November, he lives in Massachusettes, and I live here in good old England, anyway beginning of April this year he came over, to see how we would get on, and to be honest we got on pretty good. But when he gets home he's changed, he no longer is the nice loving guy who I used to talk to, he no longer tells me I'm pretty, or that he loves me, if I ask he goes all moody, he says he don't want a relationship that involves not seeing each other for 6 months, which I can totally understand and accept, but he still wants me to come over in November this year, which I am.

So this other guy on my space is pestering me to start dating him, even though this other guy lives in West Virginia, so I say no cause I'm in love with Eric, and me and Eric said we'd wait and see what happens in November, then if nothing happens, then fine we still be friends but no longer in a relationship, BUT this flamin Eric has now decided that he wants me to find someone else, and that he's not bothered if I do, grrrrrrr

Thing is I gotta go to America now no matter what my flights are paid off, but do I stay with him as was thought or do I book a hotel room? The thing is where I'm flying to is Conneticut, and so he will have no reason to come down and see me if he wants to at all, which I'm beginning to doubt, cause I think he wants shot of me as a close friend, and just wants to go back to being normal friends, which yeah I'm disappointed at, but I can accept if that is what's to happen.

I'm just deeply concerned now again about going over.

Ck · 29-05-2006, 12:37

Did he mean it when he said he wanted you to find someone else?

Like, did he just come out and say that or did the conversation somehow lead him into saying it?

It's practically impossible to know what to say 'cos I don't know you or Eric and I don't know how honest and upfront you are with each other.

**tattooed_angel** · 29-05-2006, 13:38

He didn't say it but im talking to him on mesanger now, ha talking, and he said he doesnt wanna hold me back

He's got me so upset i feel so ugly and blue :cry:

Ck · 29-05-2006, 14:31

Pah! The drama.

Ask him to quit fannying around and say how he really feels.

**tattooed_angel** · 29-05-2006, 14:41

He won't he's a male, and cause I have been pushing I caused a massive row, and so we're having a break from each other, to see how we feel at the end of the time, only thing is the break is till the end of June.

Ck · 29-05-2006, 15:29

Oh dear! Is having a break regarded as normal?

I'd read that as 'I don't want to see you anymore but I ain't got the balls to admit it for some peculiar reason '.

**tattooed_angel** · 29-05-2006, 15:39

might be, could be, who knows. He told me to be positive while we're having "a break" but how can I?!

Thing bout me is I'm deeply insecure, and I misinterpreted what he said, cause he was saying there was no problem to have a friendship with this guy, when I thought he meant go and have a relationship.

Eric is a deeply troubled person at the min, and has problems in his life, which he won't tell me bout, and I wanted to be there for him, but now I've blown it, and I think it's over.

God I hate my life.

Ck · 29-05-2006, 15:53

Awww sweetie don't be down. I'm a firm beleiver in if it's meant to be then it will.

Maybe he wants to handle his own troubles and not burden you with them, thats good. You want to be his lover yes not his mother or nursemaid ?

**tattooed_angel** · 29-05-2006, 15:57

Thanks I'll try not to be down, but things get me down so much I hate it.

I want to be his lover in every sense of the word if he'd have me.

Yeah your right, I've decided to let him go, cause I'm a strong believer in the saying "if you love someone set them free, and if they don't come back to you they weren't meant to be yours in the first place", is gonna hurt like hell not talking to him though.

Ck · 29-05-2006, 16:21

Nightmare! I don't envy you at all.

I'm crap at all that relationship stuff, things are only easy if they're black and white and yes and no, all that stuff in between confuses me.

Don't dwell though, dwelling is not good. Try to do something positive like shoe shopping and going out on the lash with your mates. It's times like this that girls need a really good giggle.