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Originally Posted by D_K
hitting children will make them hate their parents and run away from home.
and maybe hurt their parents back
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Is that a threat or a promise?
Hitting kids can be counteractive. Not hitting them not only teaches your children restraint but also the parent.
It can be counteractive because when you lash out it can leave parents feeling guilty and sorry and then they do things to 'make up' for it, thus confusing the child.
It teaches restraint by finding other, more calmer ways of disciplining the child that can be more fairly linked to what it is that they have done wrong.
Also, when parents lash out with a hit, there is little room for communication, sometimes children might not realise what it is that they have done wrong and might benefit from a patient parent explaining why they are upset or angry for what they've done. OR a child might have done something wrong by accident or there might be a good reason for why the child has done it. Smacking could take away the opportunity to talk.
And of course, children learn from their parents from an early age, if they get smacked when they do something wrong it would only seem right to them to smack someone who wrongs them.
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